Leopards don’t change their spots

For all of you who followed from the beginning, you know YB has some narcissistic ways. The dynamics on the boat have been completely different this time around, as I have shared. However, people are who they are and you learn to adapt or you move on.

The last 3 days GF has been crying and being told she is getting kicked off the boat. She confides in me, and I listen, but can’t get involved. If YB knew I was consoling her, he would feel I’m taking her side which is catastrophic to a narcissist. They like power, and when two people are in agreement against them it creates a bigger storm.

One of my issues before, was inconsistency. The rules change as he decides, in order to remain the big dog in his world. I have not seen this trait again, until yesterday. He wakes up, greets me on deck and says “when you are finished with that you need to clean the air conditioning strainer. It’s filthy.” I said “oh my gosh I’m sorry, I check it everyday and it didn’t looks dirty” he says “just because there is no visible debris doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to be cleaned. This is completely unacceptable! It needs to be cleaned once a week”

I sternly looked at him and said once a week, regardless…you got it. Then. As I’m stewing over his approach to the issue, he pokes his head around the corner and tries to be funny and create laughter. Argh

Last night I asked when the next day would be, that the boat would stay docked as she’s overdue for her wash down. He says tomorrow. This morning I get up and start to wash her. It starts raining, which is perfect for me, because the sun isn’t beating down and spotting my windows as I go.

He comes up and asks what I’m doing. “Washing the boat” I say. ~ “But it’s raining, and it’s a dirty rain”

I thought to myself…you freakin control freak. You just rolled outta bed and you have tested the rain and determined it’s dirty? Ha ha.

Now as I continue washing her, he says please leave the cushions on their side when you’re done. Um okaaay. I’ve only done this 100 times, but thanks for the direction.

We can all have bad days, and maybe even take it out on other people. I can be understanding, however, if this becomes a pattern, he will be buying me a plane ticket back to miami

Rant over